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An exercise in communication

In our society we often take for granted the various mediums we have for communicating with our loved ones, friends, and potential friends. We have the post, the phone, and e-mail. Though often or not, the most important communication is not through any modern marvels, but something that’s been around since humans and animals have existed, that is oral communication and interpretive communication (body language).

More often or not we sometimes falter in our ability to communicate. Some people hold inside them all the pain, fears, and troubles of their psyche building an invisible wall around them that is impenetrable by every method known to our race. Lying right outside their wall is the simple solution that would remedy all problems but if one dares not break out of their fortress, they will cease to exist. Eventually all life ends and would you really like to spend your last minutes regretting all the things you could have fixed if only you had let yourself become slightly vulnerable and received help.

Humans are one of the most complex enigmas roaming around the planet. Another one being communication of the feline species. There is no textbook definition of how to react to certain situations. There are books for etiquette, books for dummies in numerous situations (Dating for Dummies), there’s even a book to help you get out of the worst date. There is however no book to help you deal with the numerous factors involved in informing your mother how psychotic she may be and why it is not psychologically healthy for her to be hanging out with your baby’s daddy. Even then it’s almost a socialistic norm that mother’s should not be banging your baby’s father. That’s merely set aside for a Jerry Springer or Jenny Jones episode.

How does one communicate with their friend that her boyfriend is entirely wrong for her and that she’s speeding along the relationship highway with no brakes and the accelerator stuck to the floor? How do you tell your boyfriend that his addictions are killing him and you won’t site idly by watching the wretched human he’s become? And how do you get your sister to motivate herself and get a job before mom gives her the big ole boot to the curb?

Communication is too important in every realm of humanity. From school, to work, from friends to lovers, there needs to be standards of communication in order for relationships and life to evolve. Shutting yourself in a bottle of grain, a pack of cigarettes, a Porsche, or even a vibrating bed with a stranger in some hotel isn’t going to help you; it just pushes up the time for your demise. Some people have very odd or interesting ways of dealing with their problems. Sometimes a cathartic cry and some therapy are the best answers.

Therapy is successful only when good communication is involved. There is the surface water of your psychological being and there’s the deep dark abyss where every dark emotional problem hides. Sometimes we freeze the water from the rest of the world creating a mirror image to only reflect what others want to see. You refuse to allow the surface to warm up and allow the water to flow downward into the abyss where that damn 30-foot squid is waiting to be unleashed.

For times where there isn’t a good health care system in place or when you dare not bore some stranger with your problems, there is an alternative: Your Friends. Friends, lovers, and family are the best (and cheapest!) resources to helping out your problems. They love you incredibly and always want the best for you. This is a generalization of course; the mother with fooling around with your baby’s father apparently doesn’t want the best for you, just for herself (but then again, if he’s banging your mom, he’s certainly not the best person for you). Choose the person around you that you’re comfortable around and with whom you have the best relationship. You’ll be amazed to find out that they do not judge you, do not care about what occurred in the past nor do they belittle your decisions. As long as you ask for help and search it out, in the long run you’ll find yourself a little happier and maybe you’ll get rid of that pesky squid once and for all.

11:25 AM

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